That’s Not How Any of This Works

We are living in a time when celebrities, politicians, and other people with visible platforms say a terrible/wrong thing only to issue a forced apology. The formula goes like this:

Famous Person: Says racist thing.

Public: That’s racist. You’re racist.

Famous Person: I’m sorry you didn’t agree with the racist thing. I’m not racist.

Looks familiar right?

Well the latest, and probably the worst case of 2015, comes to us courtesy of one Ms. Stacy Dash. First she said:

“The other bad girls–bad women–are the ones who like to be naughty, might go out and play and get hurt and then, you know…But the other thing about this is that it then blames the alcohol instead of the person who over-drinks. So it’s like, the same thing with guns. Guns don’t kill people; people kill people. Alcohol doesn’t get you drunk; you get yourself drunk.”


“I would just like someone to tell me the rules. Are women strong enough to take care of themselves, or are they not strong enough to take care of themselves? Because we’re getting so many mixed messages. And I do feel for some of these fraternity guys because you look at UVA, none of them have been convicted of anything. So I think a lot of boys are feeling like the minute they step foot on college – let me finish, they step foot on college and they are immediately considered to be guilty. I mean girls are given rape whistles and boys aren’t allowed at frat parties – either women can handle liquor and make responsible choices or they can’t. And they’re a bunch of babies who need to be kept away from liquor and boys.”

After a well deserved backlash, by way of “apology” Ms. Dash said:

“After a failed attempt at humor about “good girls” and “naughty girls,” during my recent appearance on Outnumbered, I transitioned to the very serious issue of men blaming alcohol for their vile behavior. LET ME BE CLEAR: I am a victim of physical and sexual abuse. My point was that there IS NO EXCUSE for a man taking advantage of women under any circumstances. I believe that these universities focusing on alcohol consumption as a means to stop evil behavior takes the focus off the real issue of the objectification of women and how that can be prevented. I apologize to anyone who believed I was blaming the victims of these horrible acts.”

*shakes fists in the air*

A few questions if I may.

1. What was this supposed “attempt at humor”? I see nothing that could constitute a joke.  Not even irony or sarcasm. She was blatantly blaming women for being raped and managed to make men the victims. The stupid. It hurts!

2. As a victim of abuse, why would she even say she was trying to be funny? When is rape ever funny? Did she take Stupidity 101 or is she the professor?

3. How is an apology an apology if you only “apologize to anyone who believed I was blaming the victims of these horrible acts”? So you’re “apologizing” to the people who believed you meant the words that you said. That’s not how that works.

There are more questions I could ask, but I’ve run out of damns to give this woman.

We need to find a way to get her back to acting and off of FOX Allegedly News (why would ANY self-respecting Black person work there? I digress). Doesn’t Tyler Perry have another woe-is-me-where-is-Madea movie that he can give her a part in?

I’m out.